What’s BPD I hear you ask? — Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD as it’s commonly known is one of many personality disorders currently listed in the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) — aka the psychologist's bible of mental health conditions. It’s likely you haven't heard of it before. I hadn't either until I delved…

# You view yourself as fundamentally bad or damaged. — Complex PTSD — (CPTSD)is the more intricate and lesser-known sibling of PTSD. The difference being that Complex PTSD usually originates in childhood or after a prolonged abusive relationship. PTSD on the other hand tends to stem from a single event rather than a prolonged period of abuse. Those that have…

How to stop repeating toxic relationship patterns — What does LOVE look like and what does TRAUMA look like? Do you know the difference between being in love and being in trauma? Many of us are walking around in a state of emotional numbness without even considering that there may be a difference. We fall madly, deeply in…

#5. Not afraid to be vulnerable. — What is it that instantly sets some women apart from others? Just one glance tells you that she’s got something different — that elusive “je ne sais quoi”. But what exactly is that? …

#Hint: Divide and conquer tactics. — I once made what I thought was that soulmate type of friend. You know the type you think you connect with at heart level? You shared a similar upbringing, you’ve lived almost identical experiences and there’s that instant click that feels like you’ve just stumbled upon a lifelong friend. I…

Domestic abuse is not always physical. — Coercive control is hardly a new phenomenon. In fact, it’s as old as time. The term however is a relatively new and emerging term. So much so since 2015 it has been made a punishable crime in the UK. While you may not be familiar with this type of abuse…

Choose who you invest your time into wisely — Sometimes you just want to cut to the chase and know what you’re dealing with. Life is short and not many have time to waste on the wrong people. Especially if you suspect they’re toxic. I used to give people the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise. I wore…

How to recognise and pre-empt an abuser’s behavior — Domestic homicides follow a pattern. They proceed a lengthy duration of abuse which eventually culminates in murder. They are not the product of uncontrolled “passion” or rage as we are often led to believe. …

# Incorporate ‘good mother messages’. — It's no secret that the maternal bond is the most fundamental relationship we will ever have in our life. It’s what shapes and defines our ability to carve out a stable and bright future. …